If you are not satisfied with what you have, you won’t be satisfied with what you’re gonna get. ~ Oprah

Happiness.

A floating whisper of energy.

Like sunlight through a window.

Like the scent of a rose.

Like the laughter of children.

You wish you could just grab it… and keep it.

Like playing hide-and-go-seek. Now you see me. Now you don’t.

And maybe you think,

“Once I make that money or find my soul mate, then I’ll catch hold of happiness.

As soon as I figure this out, solve this problem, and reach that goal, then I’ll have what I need to be happy.”

Isn’t it like chasing after something we never quite reach?

Does it make us like dogs chasing after our own tails?

And maybe, just maybe, it’s the chase we really like. Maybe after all that’s why we keep chasing.

It could be the thrill of the hunt that we like.

Like chasing our prey through the forest, over hill and dale, romanticizing our noble quest… chasing after the elusive prize called happiness.

Unless, of course, the chase is exhausting and frustrating.

Unless, of course, we’ve put the proverbial cart before the horse, thinking it’s something else that will drive our happiness… not realizing it’s really our happiness, or lack thereof, that drives our whole life.

Have you noticed that… anything you say you want in life is because you think it will make you happy.

But nothing makes us happy, unless we first choose happiness.

And the biggest thing we don’t realize is that happiness is a choice.

Try this.

Try simply saying to yourself now, out loud:

“I now choose to be happy.

I am happy with myself.

I am happy with my body.

I am happy with my work.

I am happy with my life.

I am happy with who I am.”

Notice how you feel.

And, notice any resistance that arises as you say these words. Notice any quick judgments or snarky putdowns you levy against yourself.

Pause.

Breathe.

And try saying the words again, out loud.

Notice how you feel.

And, if this exercise is really bringing up a lot of resistance within you, and if you are someone who really wants to fulfill your true potential in life, then it means you have work to do – work to clear away the inner obstacles so you can transcend your inner-critic.

It’s work. It’s a deep inner-dive. And it’s worth it. It just might be the most important work you’ll ever do.

It’s how you can soften and relax into your own happiness.

And, if you want help to do this work, you know how to find me.

with love,
Alexander